Heather Hans, Healer, Psychotherapist, Internet TV Show Host and Spiritual Guide, shares a concrete way for growing love and attracting loving relationships in the process.
Healer, Psychotherapist, and TV Show Host, Heather Hans, gives five tips on building quality-loving relationships through minimizing gossip and negative criticism.
Hans states that in order to build quality, loving relationships, it is important to refrain from gossip and negative criticism. She adds that the world’s most attractive leaders refrain from gossip and negative criticism, which is part of what draws people to them. Even if a person is not a leader, the words they use can either put them among the top echelon or among the “bottom feeders.”
Hans says, “Gossip is for people who want to feel power and control because they currently feel weak and powerless. It is a sign of jealousy or inferiority, and is a misguided cry for attention. Unfortunately, it results in a cheapening of one’s character, and it prevents authentic and loving relationships from forming.”
Learn to refrain from gossip and negative criticism by following Hans’ tips:
1.) Keep a journal and record the number of times you gossip or criticize someone throughout the day. Awareness is the first step towards change.
2.) If someone is offensive, pray for their happiness, rather than criticize them, as their behavior is a reflection of their own level of functioning, and is not personal. People who behave poorly are suffering.
3.) Realize that not everyone is alike and imagine what life is like in their shoes. The world would be dull if everyone were the same.
4.) Stick to the facts, rather than providing a commentary, when describing a person or incident. Once people start giving their opinion, they walk the slippery slope of criticism.
5.) Change the topic if someone starts going down the road of gossip and negative criticism.
Heather Hans, LCSW, MSW, MBA, CPIC, is a Visionary, Healer & Teacher, and the author of The Heart of Self-Love: How to Radiate with Confidence. It is Heather's firm belief that loving oneself is necessary to have fulfilling relationships and a successful life. To have Heather's inspiration delivered directly to your inbox sign up for her Newsletter (your email will NEVER be shared).