Miss Millennia Magazine

Many women unconsciously repel the love they seek by being needy.  If you answer “yes” to any of her five questions below, you are blocking love and abundance to flow into your life.

1.) Do you excessively seek the opinions of others, and constantly second-guess yourself?  The more you learn to trust your own power and intuition, the more you will become a magnet for love.

2.) Do you spend more time talking about yourself and thinking of what you want or what is missing you’re your life than you spend learning from others and feeling grateful for the abundance in your life right now?  Self-absorption keeps a wall around you that does not allow new energy to enter.

3.) Are you a people-pleaser?  People-pleasing is the biggest form of neediness that plagues women.  People can sense when you are trying to please them in order to get approval, and it repels them and leaves you feeling even more needy.  When you are authentic and true to yourself, you will gain respect from others and a deep sense of self-worth, a sure way to attract love.

4.) Do you allow yourself to receive gifts, compliments, and blessings in your life or do you feel the need to repay the source and make an excuse to deflect the compliment?  Women who are needy and have low self-worth attempt to control others by being the giver. In order to receive love, you must show your vulnerability, which means letting go of image management. Show the universe that you are grateful for its love and that you welcome more be receiving with gratitude.

5.) Do you settle for less than you desire in love, work, money, and health?  Settling means that you feel the need to grasp whatever is immediately available because you don’t think you can have more. In addition to narrow-minded thinking, this belief implies a sense of lack and neediness on your behalf.  As you believe and act, so shall you receive. As Deepak Chopra says, “Go first-class all the way and the universe will respond by giving you the best.”


Heather Hans, LCSW, MSW, MBA, CPIC, is a Visionary, Healer & Teacher, and the author of The Heart of Self-Love: How to Radiate with ConfidenceIt is Heather's firm belief that loving oneself is necessary to have fulfilling relationships and a successful life. To have Heather's inspiration delivered directly to your inbox sign up for her Newsletter (your email will NEVER be shared).