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Hello, Dear One. From couples on the brink of divorce to nations on the brink of war, today we’re going to learn how to create PEACE, in any situation.
Lesson #1: You will never win an argument.
You will never win an argument, even if you’re right and they’re wrong. So it's best not to engage in one in the first place.
Lesson #2: Let them think they’re in charge.
Ask them to teach you something, as if they are the wise teacher. I once asked an elderly woman how she maintained a happy marriage for over 60 years, and her response was, “I let him think he’s in charge.”
Lesson #3: Sprinkle them with sugar.
People are dying for kindness and sweetness. When you show the other party that you care about them, rather than trying to get them to care about you, they come into your favor. Everyone loves sweetness!
Lesson #4: Validate their feelings.
Say, “I can see how you’d feel that way." If you criticize, condemn or complain, they will just become obstinate, and you'll add fuel to the fire. It doesn't matter if what you say is true, no one responds to a fire torch coming at them.
Lesson #5: Listen, don’t talk, unless you’re asked a question.
True grownups learn to check their egos at the door. When you remain quiet and let the other person talk, you appear confident, and they become humbled once they realize they've either been blabbing or trying to prove themselves.
Human relationships have 2 pieces: content and emotions. Emotion is always the driving force. If you can nurture the other party’s emotions you win, AND they win. Peace is created. Everyone’s happy!
Heather Hans, LCSW, MSW, MBA, CPIC, is a Visionary, Healer & Teacher, and the author of The Heart of Self-Love: How to Radiate with Confidence. It is Heather's firm belief that loving oneself is necessary to have fulfilling relationships and a successful life. Join Heather’s 30-Day confidence challenge at heatherhans.avanoo.com