Miss Millennia Magazine



Here is my list of what makes a passionate, healthy, soulful relationship:

1.) Togetherness in spiritual participation.  Your relationship with the Divine is top priority.  Your partner is a physical form of your ability to express your spiritual essence.

2.) You make each other laugh hysterically.  Laughter adds zest to romantic life and gets you through the long haul.

3.) The relationship is free from any type of addiction.  Habitual use of drugs & alcohol, as well as compulsive behavior related to work, sex, shopping, food, computer use, exercise, etc. destroys the potential of an extraordinary relationship.  The greatest form of love is total presence and attention.

4.) Deep attraction and a passionate sex life.  One of the most extraordinary aspects of the human existence is shared in love making.

5.) Each partner gives 100% of their 50% to the relationship, and expectations are based on agreements.  Balance and boundaries are keys to good health.

6.) Unwavering loyalty and a devotion to uplifting one another.  Loyalty and support bring out the best in people and are must-haves from the people closest to us.

7.) Dedication to health and growth.  Every physical form in nature is either growing or dying.  Maintaining good health habits and a commitment to improvement prevents decline and makes life more gratifying.

8.) Each partner fulfills his/her great work in the world.  Rather than seeking a rescuer or someone to make you whole, each partner brings the joy of their own life to the other each day.

9.) Treat yourself with the kindness and delicacy of a precious gem worthy of the best.  The love you receive from others is reflected in the precious, tender care that you give yourself.

10.) You love each other through God’s eyes.  Forgiveness and seeing your partner as perfect and whole despite their human imperfections is the essence of love.


Heather Hans, LCSW, MSW, MBA, CPIC, is a Visionary, Healer & Teacher, and the author of The Heart of Self-Love: How to Radiate with ConfidenceIt is Heather's firm belief that loving oneself is necessary to have fulfilling relationships and a successful life. To have Heather's inspiration delivered directly to your inbox sign up for her Newsletter (your email will NEVER be shared).