Sue Frederick talks about how we all have this internal GPS in us which is our gut feeling our intuition our subconscious. Some people say it’s God speaking through us. The body is always right and the body sends us signals all the time. Most of the time we ignore them. We’re so into our senses and in our minds that we forget the messages our body’s telling us. They start off as subtle messages and then they become louder and louder when we don’t listen to them.
I personally think it’s great to ask other peoples options, whom you trust, and get a wide variety of opinions for critical thinking purposes. To make sure you’ve thought of every angle, but at the end of the day, no one knows better than you. No one can make a decision about your life better than you. Where does that decision come from? It comes from the deepest depths of our soul. Our own internal GPS. Why do we block ourselves? Why do we second guess ourselves? And why do we feel the need to ask everyone their opinion before we make a decision? Indecisiveness. It’s rooted in fear. What do we fear? We fear our own self-criticism and we fear other people’s criticism of us.
I have news for you. It is none of your business what other people think of you. It’s their business, and they’re going to think whatever they think of you regardless of what you do. The important thing is to be authentic. To listen to your soul. To listen to your intuition and to know that it’s guiding you. Does that mean that if it tells you a decision, you make that decision, and it doesn’t turn out the way you thought it would that that decision was wrong? No! I have clients that come into my office that say “I don’t trust myself anymore because I thought I was making a decision based on intuition and it didn’t go the way I had it planned.” Well you don’t know the biggest highest purpose for your life. There’s something much greater than you operating and you’re soul really does have a wisdom to it.
Sometimes we need to go through things that may be painful or challenging or may not turn out exactly the way we wanted them to, but it’s precisely what our soul needed to grow and evolve. You can trust your inner voice and as long as you’re not judging yourself and you’re giving yourself some leeway to say I’m listening to myself. I’m listening to what my bodies telling me, just like when the body falls ill, when you don’t pay attention to it, when you don’t rest it’s going to keep getting more and more ill until you do. We get these wake up calls in life and the key is to try. Try your hardest to listen to it the first time around with the subtle cues.
One great way to do this is through meditation. When we close our eyes, even if you’re just closing your eyes and sitting, you don’t have to be doing a mantra or doing anything fancy, just sit, close your eyes, you will feel what’s going on in here. The less you talk the more you’ll feel what’s going on in here. Try to pay attention to your own inner voice before it gets jumbled up with the mind. The mind is a brilliant tool. That’s why we have them, but it’s not the be all and end all.
The body and the soul is the top of the hierarchy. So I ask you, the next time you have a decision to make, can you trust yourself, or do you need to seek the opinion or approval of others? I invite you to try trusting yourself. Try listening to what your gut's telling you and act on that and see what happens.
Heather Hans, LCSW, MSW, MBA, CPIC, is a Visionary, Healer & Teacher, and the author of The Heart of Self-Love: How to Radiate with Confidence. It is Heather's firm belief that loving oneself is necessary to have fulfilling relationships and a successful life.