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Do you believe that real love is available to you? Or do you believe you will be alone forever?


Tending to our hearts is the MOST important and tender work we will ever do.


The attachments of our formative years set the stage for our future relationships. When our caregivers were not sensitively attuned to us, our love identities became diminished.


Put your hand over your heart and hold it tenderly.


Imagine what it would feel like as a child and as an adult if you knew that your needs in love were going to be met; that those around you would be sensitive and attuned to meeting your needs. How would you act differently if you knew you would always be loved with abundance?


How would you think, feel, walk, talk, eat, stand, sit, listen, sleep…if you knew that true love is available to you?


Are you willing to do the most tender, core work of this lifetime so you can have true love?


Being loved by someone who empathetically attunes to our emotions is our birthright. Until we heal and do the work to change our story about relationships, we continue to be pained by them.


When we believe that our needs in love will not be met, we are targets for narcissists, further creating a broken love identity. Trust yourself when someone's behavior feels unloving. You really CAN be loved without settling.


When we become programmed to not being met and matched in love, it's time to get help, not time to settle or give up. The more we believe that love is not available to us, the more loveless people we attract.


By healing our hurt hearts, we uplift our inner and outer worlds.


This is the MOST important work we can ever do - the work of the heart.



Heather Hans, LCSW, MSW, MBA, CPIC, is a Visionary, Healer & Teacher, and the author of The Heart of Self-Love: How to Radiate with ConfidenceIt is Heather's firm belief that loving oneself is necessary to have fulfilling relationships and a successful life.  Join Heather’s 30-Day confidence challenge at heatherhans.avanoo.com