My work is about humanity and serving people. When it comes down to it the world revolves around people and relationships, and while there are many abstract touchy feely concepts in relationships, there’s also the brass tacks. We’re talking about 7th grade health class. Do you smell good?
Sometimes we don’t know when we don’t smell good, but to smell good isn’t just for you. It’s for the enjoyment of other people. Researchers have known for quite a while that women actually pick their mates based on their scent. They can detect genetic compatibility by a person’s scent. And I’m not talking about cologne scent or bath scents but by their very essence, inside to the outside scent.
There’s not a whole lot we can do about our basic human scent, and we all have a variety of scents, but we can do things to improve our scent, to make relationships flow with more ease. I have actually gotten out of a relationship with someone, because he stunk. That is nasty!
We don’t know sometimes when we stink. If you want to know your scent, or if you have forgotten about smelling good and don’t think of it often here are three things to try:
- Sniff the pits of your shirt, folks. Most people don’t do this, but the problem is we can’t smell it in ourselves. Those people we hug and wrap our arms around, they get a nice good whiff of it. When you take off your shirt, take a whiff.
- Use fragrance. Now you can get fragrance that isn’t loaded with chemicals and alcohol but is natural.
- One of the greatest inventions of all time, the tongue scraper. This gets off tiny little bugs all over your tongue that are giving you halitosis. So SCRAPE that tongue.
Another thing you can do is to ask a trusted confidant about your odor. Looking for one? Ask a child. They will always be honest with you.
Scent is so crucial that starving predators will actually go without food because of a scent. This is why skunks let off their smell. No one wants to eat something stinky, or get near something stinky. They’d rather starve to death!
Brass tacks. Basics. How do you smell, and is it helping you win friends and influence people?
Heather Hans, LCSW, MSW, MBA, CPIC, is a Visionary, Healer & Teacher, and the author of The Heart of Self-Love: How to Radiate with Confidence. It is Heather's firm belief that loving oneself is necessary to have fulfilling relationships and a successful life.