Tap Into

As my late & great teacher, Dr. Wayne Dyer, said, abundance is not created. It’s a state you tap into.

“There's not enough for me. There's not enough love for me!" That used to be my paradigm until I cleared it out and discovered it was all an illusion.

Most of our culture lives with some type of scarcity mind-set.

Money. Love. Food & Substances. Time

When you feel disconnected from your creator, you forget that there is no such thing as a shortage.


Discounts/Bargains/ Marketing - mind manipulation based on fear of scarcity.

I promise you that if you miss this sale there'll be another one a few steps up...

There are certain things it’s best not to do after a certain age, once you become a real a grown-up, say 30, such as, having a roommate, getting sloppy drunk, or being commitment-avoidant.

Likewise, always being broke & struggling for money becomes goofy after a certain point.

No disrespect to our ancestors, who survived the depression. The predominant collective world view at that time WAS famine.

I better not spend any of it because then it'll all be gone!

God, by its very definition, is abundant; there is no end to it!

Food & Substances

Over eating and over-consuming substances is another sign of a scarcity mindset, feeling like there is just not going to be enough.

Sensual pleasures are wonderful, but if you are frantically going after them it means that you are not only out of touch with your body, giving you clues that it’s full, but you’re also out of touch with the truth.

We create our lives. If you believe you have to get in all your sweetness now because it's gonna be a while until you get it again, then you don't yet understand your power.


Settling in relationships -Forcing people to love you
-and having to be with your significant other all the time are all symptoms of a scarcity mindset in love.

It's like trying to fit a square peg into a round hole. You will get in there, you will be my soul mate, you will love me or else!

But wait, I’m not your soul mate, I'm not the right person for you!

Just be quiet and get in there!

How much more delightful and luxurious it is to feel so at home in yourself that you don't give a darn whether he likes you or not!

I used to think that people sucked so badly that I couldn’t find a single one in this world. But then I realized that was my paradigm and an excuse.

Your twin flame wants to unite with you as much as you want to unite with your twin flame. Allow them to appear without force.


There's not enough time. I'm running out of time. I wish I had more time.

Kids are our best mirrors. I noticed my own scarcity mindset with time when my son started frantically getting ready for bed at night and when I asked him why he was doing that he was saying, “because you said we’re running out of time, there’s not enough time!”

A scarcity mindset is dangerous and exhausting!

Similar to how a toxic relationship is one that does not grow, a scarcity mindset is one that stays at the status quo.

Trust me, there will always be more!


Heather Hans, LCSW, MSW, MBA, CPIC, is a Visionary, Healer & Teacher, and the author of The Heart of Self-Love: How to Radiate with ConfidenceIt is Heather's firm belief that loving oneself is necessary to have fulfilling relationships and a successful life.  Join Heather’s 30-Day confidence challenge at avanoo.com