Your pain is exactly what you need to become a hero.

You see, without conflict and a burning desire for something better, there can be no transformation.

And without transformation, there can be no hero. A hero is a hero because they have triumphed!

You have the inner resources to transform and make your dreams come true and that happens when you are up against the edge.

What you seek is within your reach. What you are looking for, dear one, is inside of you.

Who are you? And where do you come from? What do you desperately want?

Who or what is your enemy? and how are they preventing you from having what you want?

In many cases it’s not other people who are your enemies, it’s you. Can you have compassion and empathy for yourself? Self-love is the first step towards transformation.

You’re confronted by unbearable pain and torment because your potential to transform is right.

Be ready for the fight because now’s the time. You see, you can’t be a hero without conflict. Conflict is necessary. By facing your conflict head on, change happens.

It’s through deep suffering that new realization and strength emerge. You can’t figure it out in your brain. You must trust the unknown!

Have courage to leave the world you’ve known and fully face your emotions. There are grave consequences of having no conflict in your life. Without conflict, there’s no story and no hero, no point of being here!

Transformation is an inside out job. A lot of people think that once things change in their life then they’ll be happy; then they’ll be free. But in order for things in your life to change you must first be happy and free!

Want success so you feel worthy and adored? Feel worthy and adored and then you’ll be successful!

Want to meet someone who loves you unconditionally? Love yourself unconditionally and then you will!

You have to see, hear, smell, taste & touch what you want before it exists! You have to want it so badly that you are willing to create the essence of it within yourself. Reclaiming your true self is what your story is all about.

The psychological wounding that happens from the tormenters of your life is superficial compared to what lies within you!

It’s the positive reframing of disturbing circumstances that creates transformation. Reframing means that you see the situation differently. That is your power!

Once you see it differently, your reward appears. What leads you from misery to your highest realization is what makes you a hero.

Spiritual growth is at the heart of every story. Psycho-analysts like Carl Young & Sigmund Freud looked at fairy tales as symbols of the psyche and the transformation that occurs when you face your demons.

Life is a journey that constantly moves between darkness and light. You were born equipped with heroic powers to transform your suffering to victory!



Heather Hans, LCSW, MSW, MBA, CPIC, is a Visionary, Healer & Teacher, and the author of The Heart of Self-Love: How to Radiate with ConfidenceIt is Heather's firm belief that loving oneself is necessary to have fulfilling relationships and a successful life.  Join Heather’s 30-Day confidence challenge at