Heather Hans

What’s your default in life?  What I mean by that is, what is the attitude that you fall back on most of the time?

WhatsYourDefaultRecently I went for a run and stopped and talked to one of the police officers who was blocking traffic because of the flood we've had in Boulder, CO.  Some of the roads are still cut off.  During my runs every day, I’ve been surveying the land, and I’ve been astonished at how quickly the clean up is going and really amazed and grateful for all of the rescue efforts.  I ran by an elementary school that was waist deep in water one morning and later that day I drove by it and all of the water had been sucked up.

That morning when I was running home, I stopped by a police officer and I thanked him for his service and told him how amazed I was at how quickly things were moving.  And his response was that, a lot of people are amazed and the other half of people feel like it’s just not going quickly enough.  People were either complaining or they were grateful.  There was no in between, but he was hearing both sides of it.

It got me to thinking about default attitudes, because I guarantee you that those people who were thinking that it wasn't happening quickly enough are people who feel that way about life in general.  People feeling dissatisfied about things in general will always make it about the topic at hand.  Likewise people who have a general sense of gratitude and appreciation of life will usually see the efforts or the things that are happening that are positive in life, regardless of the topic.

When you look at your life what is your default?  Do you fall back on seeing the glass half empty or do you see it half full?  Cliché, but true.  Do you default to worrying?  If you don’t have something to worry about, do you find something to worry about?  If you don’t have something to criticize, do you find something to criticize?  If you don’t have something to be anxious about, do you find something to be anxious about?  Or do you take things that come in life and say “how can I use these to my advantage?”  How can I use this hardship to my advantage?  What’s the lesson in here, for me, that will help me grow? And I am amazed with life and all it brings.

What’s your default in life?  I encourage you to take a look.


Heather Hans, LCSW, MSW, MBA, CPIC, is a Visionary, Healer & Teacher, and the author of The Heart of Self-Love: How to Radiate with ConfidenceIt is Heather's firm belief that loving oneself is necessary to have fulfilling relationships and a successful life.