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I watched my mother getting beaten by a live-in partner, screaming and crying for help, when I was 5 years old. I remember shaking with fear, wondering who would take care of me if even my mother wasn’t safe. Little did I know, it was the seed that would make me a love & confidence expert.

Relationships are not just about hearts and flowers. Healthy relationships can end war and violence in this world. To think that world peace isn't possible is thinking WAY too small. Of course it’s possible! Anything is possible when you open your mind to there being more than one right way of doing things! There is so much more fun and progress to be made on this planet once we stop fighting with one another!

You think your thoughts are reality but they only reflect your current level of awareness, not what is ultimately possible for you. I’ve always gotten off on reaching new heights. In fact, my first orgasm was climbing ropes in elementary school! What a metaphor!

You are meant to expand to higher and greater places than you ever thought possible. Your deepest pain is your greatest asset. The events of your past prepared you for a future of greatness! The pain of your bad memory is simply stored-up energy for you to use to help the world. Life-changing events are meant to bring you to your life’s mission.

People complain that their disappointments wound them instead of seeing that they help them. Shift your perspective, and miracles will occur! That is my promise! Your dreams are SUPPOSED to come true! Stop making small prayers and instead ask for GREATNESS!

What moments have defined YOUR life?


Heather Hans, LCSW, MSW, MBA, CPIC, is a Visionary, Healer & Teacher, and the author of The Heart of Self-Love: How to Radiate with ConfidenceIt is Heather's firm belief that loving oneself is necessary to have fulfilling relationships and a successful life.  Join Heather’s 30-Day confidence challenge at